It Was Me, In the Car, With a Computer Cord And My Husband
Over the weekend my husband and I took a little road trip to Tallahassee, Florida, roughly a 1 ½ hour drive from our home, mostly highway.
I would like to preface this article by saying that I love my husband. He is considerate (most of the time), sweet (most of the time), and provides well for me (ALL of the time). But when we embark on any type of trip that takes more than 15 minutes to reach our destination I feel compelled to strangle him. As a driver he is offensive, impatient and vocal about his displeasure with the performance of nearly every other human being on the road. After about an hour of this I'm ready to test the durability of my frame against the famed tuck-and-roll maneuver of escaping a vehicle. Since I've already in my relationship learned that saying “Would you just shut up already?!” is not an acceptable form of marital communication, I spend most trips staring out the window at anything remotely interesting and keeping my mouth shut. Upon arrival in Tallahassee we haggle over the best ways to tackle four lane rush hour traffic and reach our destination, him no doubt tired from driving and fussing and me tired from listening. We enter the abode of my father and step-mother and I'm quickly reminded that while my husband has quirks and annoying habits or behaviors, he is still quite a catch. He works, he is not hopelessly addicted to anything, and he is generally a very considerate husband, as noted above. He does not beat me, expect wifely duties that are either above my abilities or outside of my comfort zone, nor berate me in front of others. I realized that while I spent that whole trip begging him quietly inside my head to be patient, I was forgetting to be patient with him. I was neglecting to remember that this is his way, it's who he is, and it's really not that big of a deal. The bible says that “Love is patient” for a reason. We must be careful to be patient with our partners' little annoyances and character flaws and learn to keep loving them, even if they can never seem to just shut up.