The Fiscal Fight: When Money Causes Relationship Problems
If you tune in to any news channel, read a newspaper or watch a presidential debate one of the key issues that you’re sure to hear discussed is our nations economy and money problems. This issue has democrats and republicans fighting like cats and dogs, or husbands and wives.
True enough our two main political parties are not unlike a married couple. They’re both in the same fight, they both have opinions that they cling to for better or worse, and they both will ultimately have to live with the consequences of both their choices at the end of the day, together as a unit. When money issues creep into a relationship they can sometimes suck the life out of it faster than a vampire on an unsuspecting and Hollywood-attractive victim. In fact, money problems or disagreements are one of the leading causes of divorce in America today. So in today’s tough economic times, how can a couple survive the vampire in the room? First, be honest with each other. Lying about how you spend money, when you spend money, etc. is no way to promote financial or any other type of happiness in your relationship. If you earn as a unit, spend as a unit, and own up to your expenditures. Now ladies, I’m the first to admit that I’ve flubbed the price of a pair of shoes more than once to my husband. Perhaps they cost $40.00, but I feel safer answering to a $25.00 expense. It’s something I’m working on myself. Unless you’re in financial straights as a result of addiction, gambling, or one of you making a sporadic and undisclosed transaction on something like a house or car then you should really get over that little $40.00 that one of you spent frivolously. That little purchase is probably not what put you behind on your bills or, God forbid, into bankruptcy. You should have a little fun with your money, but responsibly, and that goes for both of you. here's a suggestion - try online dating on a decent dating site. Don’t make major purchases without first discussing them and coming to some semblance of agreement or acquiescence. Should your spouse be guilty of more frivolous spending than you, try a little forgiveness, within reason. We’re not all money-minded people and some are better with keeping the finances than others.